Comments on: Power Dynamics Within the Family http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/02/13/power-dynamics-within-the-family/ Sat, 19 May 2012 19:24:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: myname http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/02/13/power-dynamics-within-the-family/#comment-25 myname Sat, 21 Feb 2009 20:08:51 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=26#comment-25 It occurs to me that attempts at controlling others typically means that there is an underlying insecurity in the one who needs to feel power over another. The economy relies on a belief that we are powerful and secure but when that belief in our economy or in ourselves is warped or challenged, we panic. Those in government, who lost the votes and now are being challenged, are panicking and trying desperately to hold on to their beliefs, even if they don't make sense anymore. It strikes me that power is reliant on someone else supporting that notion. One is only as powerful as their supporters believe they are. I'm just beginning to learn this. It occurs to me that attempts at controlling others typically means that there is an underlying insecurity in the one who needs to feel power over another. The economy relies on a belief that we are powerful and secure but when that belief in our economy or in ourselves is warped or challenged, we panic. Those in government, who lost the votes and now are being challenged, are panicking and trying desperately to hold on to their beliefs, even if they don’t make sense anymore. It strikes me that power is reliant on someone else supporting that notion. One is only as powerful as their supporters believe they are. I’m just beginning to learn this.

]]> By: Anonymous http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/02/13/power-dynamics-within-the-family/#comment-24 Anonymous Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:56:22 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=26#comment-24 I hear you Sara. I, too, am in the middle of restructuring. I have learned that being hurt repeatedly by someone who refuses to acknowledge their own role and responsibility in the relationship is not a "friendship" worth nurturing. "Look carefully at your relationships to notice who supports you to succeed and who blocks your efforts. Then, make some decisions to do something about that, not by changing the other people, but by changing how important you allow people to be in your life." I hear you Sara. I, too, am in the middle of restructuring. I have learned that being hurt repeatedly by someone who refuses to acknowledge their own role and responsibility in the relationship is not a “friendship” worth nurturing.

“Look carefully at your relationships to notice who supports you to succeed and who blocks your efforts. Then, make some decisions to do something about that, not by changing the other people, but by changing how important you allow people to be in your life.”

]]> By: Sara Gordon http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/02/13/power-dynamics-within-the-family/#comment-23 Sara Gordon Sat, 14 Feb 2009 15:42:32 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=26#comment-23 I'm trying to restructure a friendship so I'm no longer drained and depleted by the relationship. Jane's words have been extremely helpful; I need to focus on the importance I allow this person to have and not on the hope of changing her. Thanks Jane! I’m trying to restructure a friendship so I’m no longer drained and depleted by the relationship. Jane’s words have been extremely helpful; I need to focus on the importance I allow this person to have and not on the hope of changing her. Thanks Jane!

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