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Archive for March, 2010

Spring Awakening

Saturday, March 20th, 2010

At this time of transition, tune in to quiet the volume of your Inner Critic. Spring is a time of shedding- uncovering- reseeding & cultivating. How might you do one of each in the coming season? To read more on this subject, click the link below…

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This Month’s Message: Spring Growth

by Robert Gerzon

Today is the Spring Equinox–the beginning of spring! It’s a special day of balance day when the hours of light and dark are equal.

You can feel Mother Nature getting ready to grow. The energy is building, the seeds are sprouting, the buds are unfurling, and the birds returning.

Human beings like to grow too. It makes us feel alive and it gives meaning to life.

Our commercialized consumer society tends to keep us too busy and too frazzled to even think about our goals and our life purpose. Then it takes the resulting frustration and boredom and channels it into the desire to consume more food than our body needs, buy new gadgets to clutter our homes, and snack on more media mind candy to distract us from that nagging feeling of meaninglessness.

During this season of growth I always remember that great line from a Bob Dylan song — “He not busy being born is busy dying.”

The biological truth is that within our body cells are busy dying and being born every day. It’s thanks to the new ones constantly being born that we’re still around and have the opportunity for growth. Growth is not optional — it’s required for survival.

Personal growth helps us meet our individual goals and keeps life fresh and exciting. It’s the best anti-aging strategy around today. And its companion, spiritual growth, is the best strategy for finding meaning and joy in each day as we live it.

Why not reserve one of these beautiful spring days as a “spiritual health day”?

Something new is emerging in you this spring. Take time to listen to your inner voice. Make room for the new growth by letting go of outworn habits and thoughts.

Take a walk, paddle a canoe, sit in the sun. Ask your inner child what he or she has been waiting all winter to do. Ask your soul what sort of growth it wants to guide you toward during this new season of your once and precious life.

Enjoy your day! http://www.gerzon.com

Prejudice about Size & Weight

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

Size discrimination is the last frontier of what seems to be acceptable in terms of discrimination without consequences. Fat Pig, is an Outer Critic’s Circle Award winning play which boldly asks questions about our ability to change what we find unattractive in ourselves. Join me for a discussion after the Sunday, April 18th 2pm performance as I co-lead a conversation about the issues raised in the play. For more information about the play check our www.TheatreHorizon.org

Here is a timely article on the subject from yesterday’s NYTimes:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/16/health/16essa.html

As a woman whose height and weight put me in the obese category on the body-mass-index chart, I cringed when Michelle Obama recently spoke of putting her daughters on a diet. While I’m sure the first lady’s intentions are good, I’m also sure that her comments about childhood obesity will add yet another layer to the stigma of being overweight in America.

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Last August, Dr. Delos M. Cosgrove, a cardiac surgeon and chief executive of the prestigious Cleveland Clinic, told a columnist for The New York Times that if he could get away with it legally, he would refuse to hire anyone who is obese. He probably could get away with it, actually, because no federal legislation protects the civil rights of fat workers, and only one state, Michigan, bans discrimination on the basis of weight.

Dr. Cosgrove may be unusually blunt, but he is far from alone. Public attitudes about fat have never been more judgmental; stigmatizing fat people has become not just acceptable but, in some circles, de rigueur. I’ve sat in meetings with colleagues who wouldn’t dream of disparaging anyone’s color, sex, economic status or general attractiveness, yet feel free to comment witheringly on a person’s weight.

Over the last few years, fat people have become scapegoats for all manner of cultural ills. “There’s an atmosphere now where it’s O.K. to blame everything on weight,” said Dr. Linda Bacon, a nutrition researcher and the author of “Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight” (Benbella, 2008). “If we’re worried about climate change, someone comes out with an article about how heavier people weigh more, so they require more fuel, and they blame the climate change crisis on fatter people. We have this strong belief system that it’s their fault, that it’s all about gluttony or lack of exercise.”

It’s no secret that being fat is rarely good for your career. Heather Brown (no relation) has experienced this firsthand. A few years ago, she applied for a grant-writing job with a small nonprofit in the Boston area. After a successful phone interview, she was invited to the office.

“As soon as I shook the interviewer’s hand, I knew she would not hire me,” Ms. Brown said. “She gave me a look of utter disdain, and made a big deal about whether we should take the stairs or ride the elevator to the room where we were going to talk. During the actual interview, she would not even look at me and kept looking to the side.” Ms. Brown, 36, who now works as an assistant dean at a college near Chicago, said she never even got a “No thank you” letter after the interview.

That story is all too familiar to people like Bill Fabrey, an advocate who in 1969 founded the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance. The organization’s archives, he says, are full of stories from people who say they lost jobs or promotions because of their weight, or were not hired in the first place.

Some of the most blatant fat discrimination comes from medical professionals. Rebecca Puhl, a clinical psychologist and director of research at the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale, has been studying the stigma of obesity for more than a decade. More than half of the 620 primary care doctors questioned for one study described obese patients as “awkward, unattractive, ugly, and unlikely to comply with treatment.” (This last is significant, because doctors who think patients won’t follow their instructions treat and prescribe for them differently.)

Dr. Puhl said she was especially disturbed at how openly the doctors expressed their biases. “If I was trying to study gender or racial bias, I couldn’t use the assessment tools I’m using, because people wouldn’t be truthful,” she said. “They’d want to be more politically correct.”

Despite the abundance of research showing that most people are unable to make significant long-term changes in their weight, it’s clear that doctors tend to view obesity as a matter of personal responsibility. Perhaps they see shame and stigma as a health care strategy.

If so, is it working? Not very well. Many fat people sidestep such judgments by simply avoiding doctor visits, whether for routine checkups, preventive screenings or urgent health problems.

Indeed, Dr. Peter A. Muennig, an assistant professor of health policy at Columbia, says stigma can do more than keep fat people from the doctor: it can actually make them sick. “Stigma and prejudice are intensely stressful,” he explained. “Stress puts the body on full alert, which gets the blood pressure up, the sugar up, everything you need to fight or flee the predator.”

Over time, such chronic stress can lead to high blood pressure, diabetes and other medical ills, many of them (surprise!) associated with obesity. In studies, Dr. Muennig has found that women who say they feel they are too heavy suffer more mental and physical illness than women who say they feel fine about their size — no matter what they weigh.

Even if doctors don’t directly express weight-based judgments, their biases can hurt patients. One recent study shows that the higher a patient’s body mass, the less respect doctors express for that patient. And the less respect a doctor has for a patient, says Dr. Mary Huizinga, the study’s lead author and an assistant professor at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, the less time the doctor spends with the patient and the less information he or she offers.

Fat stigma affects everyone’s health — fat, thin or in between. Last fall, Lincoln University in southern Pennsylvania announced that it would weigh and measure all freshmen, and require those with a B.M.I. over 30 to enroll in a special fitness class. Fat rights advocates protested it as discrimination: If the fitness class was that important to student health, shouldn’t everyone take it?

Lincoln’s administrators backpedaled after a storm of bad press. But the controversy underscores the fact that fat stigma isn’t about improving people’s health, as doctors like Delos Cosgrove contend. If it were, the conversation would be about health rather than numbers on the scale and the B.M.I. chart.

Dr. Bacon tells the story of an overweight teenage girl whose high school was going through a “wellness campaign.” Hallways were plastered with posters saying “Prevent teenage obesity.” After the posters went up, the girl said, schoolmates began taunting her in the halls, pointing at the obese girl on the posters and saying, “Look at the fat chick.”

She said heavier students were now made to feel guilty about their lunch choices, but the thin ones could eat anything they wanted without comment — even if it was exactly what the fat kids were eating.

“Stigmatization gives the thinner kids permission to think there’s something wrong with the larger kids,” Dr. Bacon, the nutrition researcher, said. “And it doesn’t help them look at their own health habits. There’s got to be a way to do this more respectfully and more effectively.”

Harriet Brown teaches magazine journalism at the Newhouse School in Syracuse.

A version of this article appeared in print on March 16, 2010, on page D6 of the New York edition.

Don’t Hesitate to Tell Your Daughter She’s Beautiful

Friday, March 5th, 2010

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jane-shure/dont-hesitate-to-tell-you_b_481725.html

this is the correct final sentence:

They don’t believe that about anyone else in their world, let them at least have that in the safety of their own homes.

Last month while leading a discussion on raising teens in a body-conscious world, I came away reminded of how confused parents have become. With the media’s overemphasis on appearance at any cost, parents are challenged to help their kids question the culture’s over emphasis on external appearance while essentially ignoring the messaging for one’s internal self.

The following question posed as a statement, helped me realize just how confused today’s parents are: “We shouldn’t be telling our daughters that they are beautiful because that would only feed in to reinforcing the importance she holds about her looks.” Stunned at what I was hearing from well educated, thoughtful, feminist minded mothers, I burst forth with a rant that sounded something like the following: “Of course we need to tell our daughters that they are beautiful. Let me assure you that your daughters are exposed to negative messaging all day long, every day of every week, picking them apart and diminishing their sense of self. They don’t need to hear any more negative messaging at home. They absolutely do need to hear your voices expressing positive messages about how beautiful and adorable they are. Yes, they need to hear that their beauty is not all surface beauty, but they also need to hear that you see them as pretty, cute, hip, gorgeous – you name it. I promise you that it won’t go to their head and inflate their sense of being. There’s plenty in their world offsetting that as a possibility.”

How have we gotten to the point where mother’s, well-read in childrearing and self-esteem building, are reluctant to join their daughters when they say “Mommy, don’t I look beautiful?” When a young girl or teen asks this question, they are really asking “am I beautiful enough to be loved by you?” The answer from any mother or father needs to be yes.

Many mom’s and dad’s are, themselves, “under the influence,” swayed by the unrealistic body images promoted in the media. Because of this phenomenon they may convey disapproval to their daughters when they don’t comply with looking “thin.” Real bodies aren’t all thin. In fact most of us aren’t “thin.” That doesn’t mean that we are “fat.” But in today’s world, people are being trained to think in all-or-nothing terms – its black or white- fat or thin. Healthy girl development (just like healthy boy development) has us going through many awkward growth spurts. What our daughters need is to feel that they are beautiful to their parents and loved as they are. They don’t believe that about anyone else in their world, let them at least have that in the safety of their own homes.